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What the Hell is my Brain Doing Podcast

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Welcome to My Podcast

Julie Lamb, licensed therapist and life coach has helped thousands of people take control of their mindset and careers by helping them understand their most powerful strategic asset, their brain.

Join her as she takes you on a path of personal growth and understanding of the who, what and whys of your thoughts and behaviors. Have you ever thought to yourself, “Why in the world did I do that?” If yes, this is the podcast for you!

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13 Things I've Learned from Marriage

183:720981674 (Julie Lamb) — Mon, 10 Aug 2020 16:58:08 GMT

And why it matters

Today is a special day because it is my anniversary. I have been married for 13 years and it has been quite the journey. We have seen each other at our best, and our worst. We have the privilege of being parents to three incredible kids. And, we like to be with each other.

So, in honor of the 13 years we have been together, I want to share some things I have learned and why they matter:

1. You do not need to compromise yourself to compromise.

This is something we learned early on. There are things that my husband likes that I do not, and vice versa. I like Pride and Prejudice and he likes Star Trek. Each of us will share the things we like, but I will not watch Horror movies. That is a hard pass. While it is a small thing, I am not going to do something that makes me uncomfortable just because my husband wants to. So, what are the things you are not okay with, and compromise on the rest.

2. It is not his, or my, responsibility to make each other happy.

I am in charge of my own happiness. Yes, I want to do things that make him happy, but I get to decided how I feel about it.

3. Respect each other, even when you do not agree

One of the most important lessons I have learned is that my husband and I are different. He will do things that I think are simply crazy, and I will do things that confuse him. Regardless, we allow each other to do those things, without judgement.

4. Communicate about the small things so you can talk about the big things

Everyday my husband and I ask about each other’s day. We talk about the good, bad, the ugly…it does not matter. Those small moments make it easier for me to go and talk about big things. When I wanted to start my own business, I knew I could talk to my husband because he listened to me about anything.

5. Be each other’s advocate

I know I have failings, but hearing my husband tell me how great I am, continues to boost my confidence. Now, I do not need him to do that, but knowing he has my back makes me work harder at what I do.

6. It is okay to go to bed mad at each other

Hands down the worst advice ever is “never go to bed angry.” The reason this advice is so terrible: it is okay to take a break and think about things before you say something you might regret. Go to bed angry, it is amazing how your brain will work through things and then you can work together on it in the morning

7. Do not give ultimatums

No one likes to feel like they “have to” do something. So do not do it to your spouse. The phrase “if you don’t do this then I won’t do this” must leave your vocabulary.

8. Pick your battles

If he leaves his socks on the floor, does not change the toilet paper roll, and does not do the dishes, pick one that you want addressed the most and leave the rest alone.

9. Date. Or at least find time to be alone

With three kids it is easy to put them first and forget that we are together. When you do not date or spend time alone, you become roommates and not lovers. Go out and continue to get to know each other, spend time building that relationship.

10. Be willing to change

We are not the same people from when we got married. Life changes, and so do we. I do not look the same as I did when we got married, and if my husband expected that, it could cause a lot of tension. Acknowledge that each other may have different likes and interests that is also why dating each other is so important.

11. Share your expectations

Before my husband and I were married we talked about roles in the relationship and what we wanted our marriage to be like. Well, things change and so do your expectations. When I went back to work, we had to reassess the way things are done in our marriage and home. It is easy to get mad when the dishes are not done, but was that the expectation?

12. Dream together

It is important to set goals and have a vision for your family. But it is also important to envision the possibilities, even if they seem far-fetched. On our date nights we like to talk about what our dream home might look like. Or what we would love to do for a vacation. Then we take those dreams and look at how to make them a reality. Having that dream keeps us moving toward something.

13. Have fun together

I can honestly say my husband is my best friend. I love talking with him and being with him. But I also love being silly with him. He makes me laugh. We have experienced a lot of hard things in our marriage, and I can honestly say that those things were made easier because we also have fun.

Our marriage is not perfect, but that is the beauty of it. We are striving each day to work together to build the relationship we want. Our marriage works when both of us are striving each day to be the person we want.

If any of these resonate, let me know. Or if you are struggling with any of these areas and want to improve your own relationship, set up an appointment with me today.

Julie

8 Things to Never Apologize For

183:720981674 (Julie Lamb) — Fri, 31 Jul 2020 17:26:30 GMT

Why do we say "I'm Sorry"?

How many of us say "I'm sorry" as a reflex, even if we aren't sorry?

Or maybe you don't say "I'm sorry" but instead you say or think:

I didn't mean it
How do I make this right
It's my fault

Often apologizing is a a form of people pleasing. It is easier to just take the blame and move on then to actually try and change something.

One of the biggest offenders comes from trying to please our family members. And when we don't we have a huge amount of guilt.

I am giving you permission to stop saying "I'm sorry".

Here are 8 things you need to stop apologizing for right now:

Setting Boundaries : A boundary is simply a way to protect yourself physically and emotionally. One of the hardest parts of setting boundaries is believing that it is okay to set that boundary. Think about what you need to feel okay and then set a boundary to respect that.
Choosing to Put Yourself First: It is okay to acknowledge when you need "me"time. We have all heard the analogy of putting our own mask on before helping someone put theirs on. When we are drained, we don't have anything else to give. So, maybe you need to set the boundary of protecting your "me" time so that you can give more of yourself later.
Believing in Yourself and Going After Your Dreams: What if you wanted to do something different that all those around you...can that be okay? You are so much more capable then you give yourself credit for. No one can take away your dreams unless you allow them to. So, dream big: what do you want from this life?
Having High Standards and Expectations: Never lower your beliefs just to fit in. If you don't want to do something, then don't. We tell our kids this all the time, so why do we try and become something we aren't?
Wanting More out of Life: Just because no one in your family does it, doesn't mean you cannot. How many times do we applaud those that are the first in their family to do something? Why not applaud yourself for taking a path that makes you happy.
Needing Some Alone Time: As an introvert, I totally relate. It also goes with needing to recharge yourself. Step away, take a break, and then good things will happen.
Outgrowing People that Had A Chance to Grow With You: It's okay to change friends. Many of us don't have the same friends from high school. And many of us make new friends that challenge us to grow and move forward. Be the one that challenges others to keep moving forward.
Saying No with No Explanation: No means no and that is okay. Often when someone wants an explanation it is because they don't respect boundaries. You can tell someone when something is not okay and also have the courage to walk away.

Take a look at the list of 8 things to NEVER apologize for. Which one do you want to make stronger?

If you are ready to stop apologizing and move forward in your life, set up an appointment with me today to help you be your best self.

5 Things to Do Every Day...

183:720981674 (Julie Lamb) — Tue, 12 May 2020 20:44:04 GMT

For Your Mental Health

Anxiety, Depression and Trauma, can be extremely tricky...one day you feel fine, and the next things feel out of control. I created a list of 5 things to ask yourself everyday to just check where you are at:

1. How am I feeling today, mentally and physically: Anxiety will manifest in your body as headaches or stomachaches. so make sure you take a moment to consider how you are handling all the things around you.

2. What am I thinking about the most: In the Anxiety Workbook I share how our thoughts create our feelings. If you are thinking a lot about things you cannot control, how is that howing up in your feelings?

3. When did I last do something just for me: I mention eating because it is so important to take care of our basic needs. Are you eating regularly, and what are you eating?

4. Am I tired: I get it, life can be filled with so many things that drain us. Are you getting enough sleep to tackle those things? Studies have shown that the best sleep occurs between the hours of 10 pm - 2 pm. Are you sleeping during those times?

5. What can I do today that will bring me joy: Are you scheduling time during your day for something you love, or want to do? Having something to look forward to will help in all those moments of anxiety.

If you feel that one or more areas are off, take a look at what might need to change. If you would like help getting them back on track, schedule an appointment where we can talk about how I can help coach you through your anxiety.

Julie

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Is it Time to Let Go of the Past?

Tue, 25 Feb 2020 16:33:00 GMT

Deciding the Impact

I love being a therapist. But I do not like how therapists are described as "only concerned with the past."

Well, of course I am concerned with the past. We all are. However, we don't need to stay there.

While our past shapes how we may view things, it does not get to define our future.

All of us have a past. All of us have stories that we use to say why we are the way we are. And all of us use those stories as reasons for either changing or not changing.

There is a show on PBS called "Super Why". My girls loved this show because it was all about stories.

In every episode, the main character, Wyatt, tries to save the day by fixing the problem in the story. To which every character replies "I can't. It's in my story."

Now, it would be great if we could all "zap" the part we want changed and put in something else, but often we cannot.

However, we do get to decided what that story will mean to us. We get to decided if we will allow the past to control our future.

I have had many clients tell me, "I am sad or overwhelmed because I have always been this way." Or "my (anxiety, depression, or abuse) causes me to act this way."

We are not a product of the labels we use to define ourselves. And we are not defined by past experiences. While they are a part of our story, they are not our future.

To "zap" that part of our story, take it out and examine it. Look at the beliefs that come from it. Then ask yourself: Do I want this to define me?

If you are ready to take action in letting go of past beliefs and creating a new future, contact me and lets talk about how I can help you break free and rediscover joy.

Therapist or Coach

Mon, 10 Feb 2020 16:38:07 GMT

What's the difference?

When I was growing up, I knew I wanted to help people. I remember sitting in my high school psychology class and planning out my career so that could happen. Through a serious of ups and downs and true life lessons, my master’s in social work felt like a huge hurdle in pursuit of my goal.

I love being a therapist. Seeing the transformation that occurs right in front of me is truly an honored privilege. The one thing that has made it truly transformational is the work my clients have been willing to do for that change. In those moments of change I knew I could champion others that did not need to focus on a diagnosis but rather a concern in their current life that keeps them stuck.

So, what is the difference? I once heard someone describe a therapist as someone that gives you the basic tools you need but a life coach is your pro teacher. I disagree tremendously with this statement and feel a little offended by it. It seems to imply that everyone is broken and only the elite can truly get to the top.

We are all experts in our own life, but sometimes we get sidetracked or derailed by circumstances around us. Sometimes we need a life coach to get us unstuck in our thinking. They will help move you forward, train and coach and reach specific goals. However, sometimes we are injured, and a therapist will get you back to top mental condition. So, one of the most important things to remember when working with me, therapy is a diagnosis and coaching is not.

As a therapist I have found that coaching is very similar. I approach your concerns with a forward movement: you don't want to be stuck in the past either! The tools I have already been using in therapy will get you on the path to a life you deserve.

So, if you are struggling with anxiety, feeling like you don't fit in, or just want someone to guide you to live the life you want, then I am here for you.

Feel free to reach out to me. You can also follow me on Facebook where I give more inspiration and motivational tips that will help you navigate the challenges we face in life.

Julie

New Year Goals

Sat, 18 Jan 2020 00:00:00 GMT

Progress, not perfection

A new year has come and that means we all sit down and write out new goals. These goals are so amazing and we know we can accomplish them so we set off to do just that...and then here we are a few weeks later and those new shiny goals are the thing of the past.

For years New Years has always meant, "new year, new goal" and I, like many, have written my share of applaudable goals: lose weight, be financially responsible, finish those projects I didn't the last year, spend more time with my husband and kids, or advance in my career. I set my timeline and take off running, literally. The problem isn't that the goals are unrealistic, the problem is that I expect myself to be perfect NOW and when I mess up my all or nothing thought is "why try." Or maybe the thought is "I knew I couldn't do it." We get discouraged and go back to the comfortable. Sometimes we think, "I'll try next year."

In my journey of self-discovery, I have learned that when I expect myself to be perfect, I will fail. Interesting that we will give others that benefit of grace but never ourselves. If instead I can look at things as, "progress, not perfection," I can keep moving forward.

So what does this look like.

It is being intentional with your goals, and kind to yourself.

Set a goal. Then ask yourself: why is this important to me?

When you know WHY you want to accomplish something, then you are more likely to move forward with progress.

When you fail. Be gentle. Don't tell yourself, "You are a loser!" Instead say "we will keep trying."

Be your biggest champion. And move forward with progress not perfection.

If you want more insights, follow me on Facebook

Julie

Family Expectations

183:720981674 (Julie Lamb) — Thu, 01 Nov 2018 16:06:03 GMT

Parenting with Love

This last weekend I gave a presentation on parenting as related to behavior, choices and consequences. I want to share parts that I feel are most helpful to all of us as parents. But first, ask yourself: what are my strengths and weakness as a parent?

BEHAVIOR

When we think of behavior we need to understand that it is defined as how we act or conduct ourselves with others. This basis then begs the question: is the behavior a problem because we say so? or does someone else say it is? So ask yourself, where does your thoughts on behavior come from? What do you value, believe and think?

These beliefs on behavior then impact our interactions with our kids. I believe in Erik Erikson's developmental model. He states that each child has to achieve certain developmental emotional levels and if they don't, that person will be stuck in those areas.

The biggest take away from this model is that we want to instill hope and confidence in our kids. We do that by working together for the benefit of our children.

PARENTS RESPONSIBILITIES

There are many responsibilities as parents that we must have to help our children know the right choices to make.

Teach by example . We must first have our life in order so that our children will grow up with the values we want them to have
Give children responsibilitie s . When we overindulge our children, or give them everything they want, when they want it, we create a need for "instant gratification." No longer will our children be patient but they will expect you to do everything for them and instantly. To help combat that, work alongside your children and teach them that work leads to privileges.
Clarify expectations . Be positive and specific in the reasonable expectations for your child. If they don't know what the rules are, or the expectation, how can they know how to meet it? When parents fail to clarify expectations, a wall of frustration and resentment may develop, creating emotional distance between them and the child. Clearly expressed expectations remove uncertainty and disappointment.
Give choices. Be consistent in the choices you give your child, but also limit the choices to achieve the outcome you need.

Our children need to know what the rules are. How can they be expected to follow them if they are unaware of what is expected in the first place? They also need to know what the consequences are to not following the rules.

When it comes to consequences remember: It's not always a matter of knowing right from wrong; our children know what is right, they know what is wrong; it is often a matter of having the strength and knowledge to choose the right, based upon what they have been taught.

Parents who protect their children from the negative consequences of misbehavior do them a great disservice, preventing them from learning the value of obedience. When you can’t say no, children run the risk of not learning important values like hard work, delayed gratification, honesty and compassion. At the same time, telling your kids how terrific they are without requiring anything substantive from them results in lazy, demanding, disrespectful, undisciplined children and teenagers.

Did you know that parents typically ignore 95-97 percent of all the appropriate and good things their children do. But if a child misbehaves, parents are 5-6 times more likely to pay attention to that behavior. So why do children act out? To get their parents attention. Often this behavior lead to anger from parents. We want our kids to listen and follow the rules we set out for them, and when they don't we feel frustrated.

One of the best ways to combat anger is to refuse to argue because contention cannot continue when no one is against you. Well that sounds simple enough, but hard in practice. If we can remember that children want parental attention and when they don’t get it through negative behavior, they usually calm down and engage in more socially acceptable behavior. So listen to understand your child; hear their side of the story and look at it from their point of view. Most importantly, if it feels like the conversation is escalating, don't be afraid to take a break before getting even angrier.

Our children really just want to be heard. They want to know that we are there for them in all aspects of their life. Take a look at where you are as a parent and evaluate if there are things that you need to let go of to be a more present parent. Maybe we need to put down the electronic devices, or put away the expectations from social media. Whatever it may be, make a plan to help strengthen your family.

PLAN OF ACTION

Write out the rules and expectations of your family. Then discuss the consequences for not following the rules. Be consistent with your children but most of all, love them. Spend time with your children and let them know that you are their advocate in all things.

If you’re family is struggling with communication or setting up these rules and expectations, I’d love to help you navigate through it in an effective and healthy way. Please contact me for more information.

Suicide Awareness

183:720981674 (Julie Lamb) — Fri, 28 Sep 2018 17:09:17 GMT

You are not alone

September is National Suicide Awareness Month and I have been meaning to talk about this for a while, but admit that this is hard for me. Eight years ago my older brother committed suicide. He had been struggling for years with depression, and attempted a few times, but seemed to be in a good place. His birthday is in September, and he would have been 44 this year.

We never know how someone is suffering. We never know what their demons may be. We all admit to feeling shocked, appalled, angry and/or heartbroken when we hear about something committing suicide, but sometimes we also feel alone. Suicide isn't talked about except when we bring attention to it in "suicide awareness month", but it needs to be talked about more often. I hesitated sharing my story for a long time because I don't want to hear people's well meaning advice or criticism. How often do we hear people say negative things about those that commit suicide leaving the survivors to mourn alone? Or how often do we shame people into not getting the help they need because we don't talk about the hard things? LIFE IS HARD!! and we should support each other ALWAYS!!

So, I wanted to share some interesting facts: statistically suicide is higher among white middle aged males. Suicide has increased across the country but is highest in higher elevation states such as Montana, Alaska Wyoming, Utah and Idaho. Veterans account for 14% of suicides nationwide though they make up only 8% of the U.S. population (according to the most recent VA report ).

While we may not always know if someone is thinking about suicide, there are some warning signs:

If you or someone you know are struggling with these thoughts and feelings, there is hope and help. I have the National Suicide Number and information at the top of the page or you can contact me. Make it a point to talk to those you love and be a source of help, not hindrance. There is no shame in getting help for you or the ones we love. I wish I could give my brother another hug or tell him how much he means to me. In the meantime I will continue to spread awareness. Please contact me if you are in need of help.

Seasons of Life

183:720981674 (Julie Lamb) — Mon, 23 Apr 2018 19:34:08 GMT

Being Resiliant

This is a time of year of new birth. Spring is in the air and with it a change or desire to renew. I have always loved spring, but this time of year makes me remember the resiliency needed even in joyful moments. Eight years ago, I experienced that new season of life when my oldest daughter was born. She was born almost a month early because of some health problems I was having. She was 5 lbs 2 ounces, so tiny and so perfect. We were lucky that she didn’t have to go into NICU, but she did develop jaundice and had to be under lights. She was a fighter from the very beginning. She continues to be a beautiful miracle in my life.

This beautiful season was not without its challenges. I had to navigate being a new mom and balancing work and my own expectations. I experienced anxiety “what if I do something wrong?” and I felt heartbreak when I went back to work that led to feelings of doubt “am I doing the right thing.” I share this in a place of vulnerability and a desire to share how even the joyful moments in our life can have tough times. One moment everything may be great and in the next you are asking “what in the world happened!” Often when we are in that moment we ask “how am I going to get through this?”

There are seasons of our life where we go from highs to lows. Tough seasons can follow the joyful times, like being a new parent. These times are wonderful and challenging. But we also experience lows that can look like grief from a loss, stress through work or relationships or just painful growing times.

No one is exempt from tough seasons and we will all experience them multiple times in our lives. A song that I really like when challenges seem so overwhelming is Rodney Atkins “If you’re going through hell”

Just like the song says "when you're going through hell, just keep going. You might get out before the devil even knows you're there."

Some things to keep in mind when you are in those tough seasons:

1. Take care of yourself . Self-care means taking care of yourself so that you have the strength to handle challenges in a healthy way. This is often the last thing you think you need, but it truly is the most important as it helps us stay grounded during life’s difficult seasons. Whether it’s reading, meditating, working out, going out with a friend, taking a bath, or writing in a journal, self-care is about staying connected to yourself and your values by doing the things that make you feel more like “you.”

2. Prioritize . You can’t say yes to everything. During difficult seasons, your emotional and physical energy will fluctuate. Things that were once easy now seem harder. Focus on what is essential to get through the day.

3. Ask for help. This is not a weakness but rather a courageous step into vulnerability. Tough seasons can feel very isolating so make sure you have a support system you can rely on.

4. Have compassion, with yourself. No one is perfect so don’t expect it of yourself. Be gentle with yourself and give yourself some grace.

5. Perspective. This season will not last forever. You will look back on this time in your life and say, “That was tough, but I’m still here. I got through it.” Those difficult times shape us into the people we are today. They can lead to new insights, greater perspectives and a deeper appreciation of the things in life that really matter.

If you’re going through a tough season currently, or if you’re anticipating an upcoming life transition, I’d love to help you navigate through it in an effective and healthy way. Please contact me for more information.

The Golden Rule

183:720981674 (Julie Lamb) — Tue, 20 Mar 2018 16:21:40 GMT

Stop Bullying

When I was in graduate school I fell in love with this picture, The Golden Rule , by Norman Rockwell. This painting hangs in the United Nations building in New York. Rockwell started to paint this in 1950-1951 and finished it in 1961. When describing the painting, the Norman Rockwell Museum said this about Rockwell, “At the height of the Cold War and two years into the Korean War, his concept was to picture the United Nations as the world’s hope for the future—he included sixty-five people representing the world’s nations, ‘waiting for the delegates to straighten out the world, so that they might live in peace and without fear.’” Since that time the world continues to experience war and a general discord among the inhabitants. I have this picture in my office as a reminder that we all deserve to live in peace and without fear.

This post is not a political debate, a religious commentary or a call to action about social change; this is about being kinder to one another. We live in an era of increased social media and instant information. This has led to people stating opinions quickly and often without full information. Think about a news article or a post you read from someone and ask yourself “was it accurate?” Did that post lift and inspire you or did it scare and create panic within you? Those emotions cause us to act out, positively and negatively. We hold each other to impossibly high expectations and lash out at differences.

If I may share a personal insight. I read about some bullying that occurred to an individual. The bullying included phrases such as “you should just kill yourself” and “you make the world evil.” My heart hurts. How can we as people tell others such cruel things? How can we encourage suicide and harm? How can we forget The Golden Rule ? Let me ask, are these saying justified based on someone’s religion, non-religion, political beliefs or affiliates, race, gender, sexual orientation or age? Would you want to be told such hurtful things? The answer is NO! We are not each other’s judge and jury. We don’t get to decide who is better or worse than anyone else. We especially don’t get to encourage such hate.

Imagine if those statements had been said to someone suffering from a mental illness. The consequences of these words could potentially lead to devastating results. We are all in different places in our lives and we all have different opinions. We should be able to discuss those differences with respect and a desire to build each other up rather than tear each other down. Maya Angelou stated, “people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

I challenge you to take today and think about how your actions impact those around you. Choose how you will react and act to others. Let us treat each other with kindness and respect no matter if we agree or disagree with them. Lets stop the bullying.

Julie Lamb, LCSW

Intentional Woman

183:720981674 (Julie Lamb) — Thu, 08 Mar 2018 19:54:38 GMT

Being Intentional

Today is International Women’s Day. It is a day to acknowledge the power of being a woman. Women have come a long way from being viewed as property and having no rights, but many countries are still fighting that charge. The #metoo movement is about giving voice to sexual violence and harassment to women and now the #time’sup movement is the solution-based, action-oriented step to creating safety and equality for women. These movements are so powerful because it gets people to join together in fighting travesties around us.

I wish to take this a step further and ask, is it okay to be the woman you want to be? Do we allow ourselves as women to support one another even when we are different? Are we allowed to work or stay at home? Are we viewed as strong no matter what our relationships look like? Do we as women judge each other the harshest. Does equality need to extend among women to women?

We as women are hardest on ourselves. We never give ourselves credit for all the things we accomplish, instead we expect more. Often that expectation bleeds over to other women. How often do we judge one another because of choices that someone makes that are different from ours? Maybe someone’s life looks differently from ours and includes or excludes things that we don’t agree with. Can we as women agree that the battle is not with each other? Let us support each other and become allies in the fight for womanhood. Let us be and view all women as strong. Let us be intentional women.

To help us be strong women, I suggest 5 things to implement in your life:

1. Stop comparing or letting anyone define you.

Accept you for YOU. Everyone is on their own path of discovery and it is okay that they are all different. Don’t try to fit into a mold that someone else creates for you. You are a one of a kind gift.

2. Spend time with yourself.

It is not selfish to recharge yourself by taking a breather. Meditate, exercise, read a book, find a hobby or take a moment to just recharge. Do something just for you that makes you happy.

3. Understand your limits and be okay with saying “no”

“Yes” and “No” are powerful words that can often come with a lot of expectations. How often have you committed to something because you couldn’t say “no”? You allowed your guilt to have you say “yes.” When you say “no” to others, you are really saying “yes” to you. Say "Yes" to putting yourself and priorities first.

4. Connect with others

We need friends. Friends are on our side. They strengthen us, challenge us and give us a sense of identity and belonging. C.S. Lewis once said that “friendship is unnecessary. It has no survival value, but it’s one of those things that gives value to our survival.”

5. Let negativity go and express gratitude

Negativity becomes a habit and weighs us down. By letting go of the negativity we can free up so much more mental and emotional space to truly find the good. By expressing gratitude, we see the negativity melt away.

If you, or someone you know, would like some help in realizing your potential as a strong woman, contact Julie to set up an appointment today.

Welcome to Insight Counseling Centre

183:720981674 (Julie Lamb) — Tue, 27 Feb 2018 16:27:48 GMT

What's with Centre?

Welcome to Insight Counseling. First off, why Centre instead of Center like most people would use? When I was considering naming my practice, I wanted something different and memorable. While Counseling is an Insight into how we view our life, relationship and surroundings, sometimes our Insight can be skewed. Often times we take ourselves too seriously and try to correct something that feels wrong or off about ourselves. How many of you want to correct Centre in my logo? How often might it get overlooked because it looks wrong? Embracing our differences, like Centre, helps us to recognize that not everything has to be perfect or uniform. Unlike spell check wants to say, Centre is spelled correctly, in England.

A book I recommend to start on this journey is "The gifts of Imperfections: Let go of who you think you're supposed to be and embrace who you are." By Brene Brown. In this book, Dr. Brown comments on our need to be perfect and how this perfection drives our feelings of inadequacies. How do your perceptions of your inadequacies stop you from living the life you truly want?

I challenge you to find the things that make you, you. Instead of looking at everything as wrong or a problem that needs to be fixed, why not consider the possibilities of how those differences make us unique. I have a quote in my office that states, "Life doesn't have to be perfect to be Beautiful." While it can seem difficult, find the beauty in your life. Find your Centre.

The purpose of this blog will be to share some insights and tips that we can all use in our day to day life and relationships. Please feel free to message me if there is a specific topic you would like addressed. Also, set up an appointment with me where I can help give you Insight into your Centre.

Insight Counseling Centre Blog

What the Hell is my Brain Doing Podcast

Welcome to My Podcast

13 Things I've Learned from Marriage

﻿ And why it matters

8 Things to Never Apologize For

Why do we say "I'm Sorry"?

5 Things to Do Every Day...

For Your Mental Health

Is it Time to Let Go of the Past?

Deciding the Impact

Therapist or Coach

What's the difference?

New Year Goals

Progress, not perfection

Family Expectations

Parenting with Love

Suicide Awareness

You are not alone

Seasons of Life

Being Resiliant

The Golden Rule

Stop Bullying

Intentional Woman

Being Intentional

Welcome to Insight Counseling Centre

What's with Centre?

And why it matters